Taking Back Childhood - This is great book which helps dads (and moms) understand their children’s actions and behavior at various levels of development. This book also provides plenty on tips on how parents should respond to their children positively without losing the opportunity to guide them in living appropriately in our media-saturated society.
On the Night You Were Born - This a sweet children's book which I read to my kids whenever I want to remind them how blessed and ecstatic I am about having them as their kids. The story in this book displays a wonderful way to affirm your love for each of your kids.
The Art of Fixing Things - Children expect their dads to be able to fix everything. If you don't want to hear your kid crying all day because of his broken bike or toy, buy and read this book ASAP. It shows you how to fix almost all the broken items that you could ever imagine. Some chapters of this books also provide insights on how you can make certain items last longer, work better and save money from unplanned purchases.
The Giving Tree - This book will definitely move you to tears. The story describes how parenthood is/should be - full of selflessness, relentlessness, love and unconditional giving. The pages are colorfully and creatively printed so the kids will love them.
Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters - No one can deny the invisible connection between fathers and daughters. This bond must be strengthened and rebuilt if broken. You will find all the insights you'll need to do both in this book. If you don't have the goal to impact your daughter's life positively, this book push you to do so.
Almost every dad blogger I know has a list of his 'must-read books for dad'. Oh well, I have one too. In this post, I want to share with you the books I've read as a new dad, the books I'm currently reading and the books I read to my kids. So if you're ready, my list begins now.
ho doesn't want to be a great dad? We all want to be the kind of dad our kids love and respect. But with all the responsibilities we need to accomplish, we barely have the attention and time to make this as a primary goal in our parenting lives. Nevertheless, we should strive to be one because our kids' future are dependent on the kind of dads we are to them.
Build a strong relationship with your kids. Child psychologists say that your connection with your kids should start from the time they were born. So if you have a newborn in the family start bonding with your baby as early as now. It's not yet too late to start with your young and/or teenage kids though. Manage your time and find ways to prioritize them always.
Avoid being punitive. Punishing kids for every misdeeds they make can harm your relationship with them. Actually, no parent-child relationship is born in such a set-up. Guide them in a positive way. Encourage them to do good in school, to behave at all times, to love their siblings, etc. in a supportive manner. By doing these, your kids will blossom into adulthood and your relationship with them with all the goodness you could ever imagine.
Don't give rifts a chance in your relationship. Do you feel like your kids are always pushing you away? Don't withdraw from gaining their attention and cooperation back unless you're going to use it as a strategy. Treat every instance as an opportunity for you to be closer to them.
Be available for them all the time. Kids open up and share their thoughts in a relaxed environment. Try your best to show your kids that you have the time and energy to listen to their stories without judging them. If you become successful at this, you will find them looking for you - and not for their friends and other people - when there's something important they need to share.
Have you been a stay at home dad for a while and now returning to the workforce? Yes? You might feel anxious that your job search and job interview skills are all rusty now. Don't fret too much. Read these insights that can help you get started with it.
1) Prepare your resume. Apart from mentioning in your resume your employment experiences before you became a stay at home dad, you must include in it any volunteer work or academic and extra-curricular activities you've accomplished with your kids. This has nothing to do with your employment skills. But this gives your prospective employer an idea of your soft skills and about how meaningful you've spent your time.
2) Ask the help of everybody. Let all your family members, friends, acquaintances and neighbors know that you're looking for a job. This is something you shouldn't be ashamed about. You will have a bigger chance of getting more employment opportunities if everybody helps.
3) Join professional organizations. This is key to knowing people in your profession. They can provide valuable recommendations for your job hunt. Moreover, these organizations provide free seminars and training sessions that help you improve and learn new skills. That would be good to see in your resume.
4) Share what you've learned from staying at home for some time. Since you've been dealing with your kids and the chores for some time, you're most likely to have a lot of patience when accomplishing tasks. Also, you might have mastered time management and some organizational skills. These could all be a plus when you're applying for a job.
5) Practice patience. If you left a top position some years ago, you cannot expect to get back to the same position and salary range when you get back to work today. You can choose to stay at the job hunt stage a little longer until a suitable employment opportunity comes. Or, you can take a lower or entry position at the moment and work your way back to the top. Both situations will require extreme patience on your part.
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Balancing your home life and work life can be very challenging to us dads. More often than not, we skimp on sleep in order to accomplish all our responsibilities. Because of this, our energy reserves are drained easily. As a result, we sometimes important activities or once in a lifetime opportunities. Keen to know you can keep yourself energized all through out busy days? Read up.
1) Keep your schedule. If you oversleep because you slept very late the night before, chances are you'll cram your way towards the accomplishment of all the tasks you have for the day. This is stressful; and stress drains a lot of your energy. Get up at the same time in the morning even though you're sleep deprived so you don't have to have to endure a messed up and an unproductive day.
2) Stay hydrated. This will keep you alert. If your cells have enough water, your brain will function efficiently even under pressure. With saying that, don't be addictive to caffeine just to keep yourself alert and awake. A cup of expresso is enough to keep you up for the day until the time your body needs to sleep.
3) Take cat naps. Taking 15 to 20 minutes will make you feel energised and rejuvenated. You don't have to schedule this. If you feel like
taking a nap, do so. But be sure to inform your boss and co-workers about it.
4) Skip the sugar. When you're sleep deprived, you're more likely to crave for sugary and salty food. Be determined to avoid them because they will make you feel lazy and sleepy after all. Bring celery sticks, bananas, nuts and other healthy stuff to munch on while you're working. You'll be surprised at how they can make you alert all through out the day.
5) Get out. Ask permission to leave your workstation so you can clear your mind a bit and breathe in some fresh air. Do the same if you're at home doing some chores. This will keep you from loosing it especially when you're faced against a stressful situation.
If you're no longer happy with your job, you're most likely to look for another job that will make you feel fulfilled and happy. While this can be helpful, changing jobs whenever you feel bad at your current work isn't advisable. This habit can lead you to career and financial instabilities which are serious problems you might want to avoid especially when you're the head of the family.
Keen to know how you can stay happy at your current work? Read these tips.
Develop resilience. We all commit mistakes and face adversities in life. Overthinking about the things you failed to do or failed to avoid in the past won't do you good. The same goes with self-blaming and making excuses that you're not as good or as skilled as others. Pick up yourself quickly and keep pushing yourself forward - towards performing at your best, achieving your goals and helping co-workers.
Forgive and let go of grudges. There are people who will rub you in the way. That is inevitable. You can choose to hold grudges or not. If you want to have positive relationships with everyone at work, drop the past and just continue with your work.
Avoid jealousy. Getting jealous is a waste of your time, abilities and opportunities. Be happy with what your co-workers' have achieved and remember that you can be successful in your own way and in your own area of excellence.
Change your perspective. Imagine yourself ten years ago. Do you appreciate what you've finally become? Imagine yourself ten years from now? Are there any goals and self-improvements you would want to achieve? Doing this will help you see your development and your shortcomings. You can use both to have a clearer direction in your career path and in life --- a great way to break free from negative thinking.
Appreciate the process more than the outcome. No matter how you work hard, the outcome will be beyond your control. Instead of sulking because things didn't go your way, appreciate the process, the hard work you've gone through. Why? Because you were able to develop a stronger character in the process.
Finding a name for your new horse can be as difficult as finding the perfect name for your newborn child. Although there are thousands of options available, choosing a name that suits your horse's personality might require some thought and research. Read the following tips which can make equine name selection easier for you.
Know the breed registry restrictions in naming horses. Do some research about the registry regulations before thinking of a potential name for your horse. Nothing could be more frustrating than setting your heart on a suitably worthy name for your horse which you can't actually use. Different equine clubs and societies have varied standards for naming a horse. Adhere to the rules set by the club or society you choose if you want to go through the entire registration process smoothly.
Consider the pedigree of your horse. Does your horse have Norwegian roots? Then investigate Norwegian names and their meanings and choose the best moniker for your horse. If you don't have time to do any research, simply name your horse after his parents, using their registered names. You can also combine his parents' individual names to come up with a new and unique name.
Consider its appearance and the activities your horse is involved in. You can name your horse after his physical features. If your horse appears radiant in his pure black coat, name him Black Beauty or Black Knight. Does your horse take part in racing or other competitions? Choose a striking name that best describes his personality or performance during tournaments. You can also choose a funny and interesting name that people will enjoy. Read this infographic from Horseland to discover the funniest names that were invented for race horses.
Think of a name that is easy to remember. Remembering all your horses' names can be quite challenging if you have ten or more mares, stallions and ponies under your care. In this case, consider giving each of your equine companions complementing or rhyming names. For example, "Mandy", "Mary" and "Murphy" sound similar without being exactly the same.
Some equine lovers believe that horses eventually take after the meanings of their names. Therefore, it is important to give your horse a name that represents positive qualities, superior health and everything that is good. While there can be a grain of truth in this belief, the keys to having a well-rounded horse are good grooming and proper training. Click here to discover products, tips and other resources you will find useful in raising your gentle giant.
There is no such thing as a perfect husband (or a perfect person). So we're born to make mistakes without us knowing it. However, this doesn't give us the license to be mindless of the wrong things we do to our wives. Here are is a short list of awful things we could be doing - knowingly and unknowingly - to our lifetime partners which we must quit doing right away.
Being critical - If it's easier to notice your wife's mistakes over her good deeds, now is the tine for you to have a change of heart and mind. Constant criticism will make her feel that she's good for nothing. Be intentional in complementing her good works when you feel the urge to criticize her again.
Being a control freak - What you know and think are not always right. This means your wife can make her own decisions without your help or permission. So don't control her actions and way of thinking. Instead, get into the habit of discussing things with her.
Being an absentee husband - Are you too busy to text her or to give her a call? Well, this might be the time for you to change your mindset or attitude. Be intentional in sparing a few minutes during your break time to call or send her a message. Don't go straight to your bed when you go home. Sit with your wife and share to her how your day went, your thoughts, your worries, and your funny experiences.
Using dirty language - Remove dirty language from your vocabulary. Learn to use gentle words in expressing your feelings. Use of dirty language can cause embarrassment to your wife and children. Use kind words when speaking with your wife and you will be surprised to find her more responsive.
Viewing pornography - This habit makes your wife feel cheap and this can cause your marriage to break eventually. If you're addicted to it, find a counselor who can help you flee from it.
Setting high of expectations - Do you have unrealistic expectations for your wife? High expectations can lead you to criticizing your wife more. Focus on her positive qualities and praise her for her good deeds. As a result, your wife will naturally start living up to your positive compliments all the more.
If you've been married for a long time, you ought to know by now that not everything your wife does is lovable. Consequently, you might find her or some of her habits quite irritating. No matter how irritated you are, you shouldn't be saying things that can hurt her feelings or lower her self-esteem. Keen to know the things you shouldn't say to you wife? Read on.
"You're getting fat." Women in general feel hurt when they're told that they're fat. This sentence makes your wife think that she's no longer attractive to you. Instead of saying point blank that she's fat, gently encourage her to engage in some exercise routines with you. Discuss how both of you can keep yourselves healthy for the benefit of your family.
Most men believe that expensive gifts are key to keeping their wives happy. The truth is, most wives don't care about receiving fancy things from their husbands. They simply need to be appreciated and assured of their husbands' unconditional love for them. Here are small things you can do each day to keep your wife happy.
Be generous with compliments. Never last the day without complimenting how she looks. Say kind words and praise the good things he's done for you and for the whole family.
Hug her a lot. Hugs make women feel loved and secured. You'll never know exactly what your wife has gone through in her workplace during the day. A tender hug can lessen the stress she feels at the moment.
Help her whenever you can. While wives are expected to support and provide aid to their husbands, they're still humans with limitations - prone to get tired and sick from too much work. Help her with the chores or anything she does for the family without even asking if she needs help.
Have a regular couch time and listen to her stories. Kids are not the only ones who need someone to talk and share their stories with; adults need their personal stories and hurts to be heard too. Make it a habit to talk with your before you both go to sleep. Cuddle each other as you exchange thoughts.
Forgive her fast. It may seem like she could do everything for you and for the kids. But she's still human who makes mistakes. She might forget things you asked her to do or she might break one your valuable possessions. Forgive her quickly for whatever she does wrong and think of all the good things she did and continue to do everyday.
Hold her hand in public. Make your wife feel proud about herself and your marriage by holding her hand in public. If appropriate, don't be scared to cuddle or show other ways to show affection to your wife in public.
Most people today take their own family portraits, rather than use a professional photographer. They use of their smartphones which enable them to edit and share their family pictures easily. While it also saves them money, it also deprives them of the opportunity to capture those precious moments of togetherness with the entire family. That's something that can't be done without an extra person dedicated to taking photos.
If you're one of those who opt not to hire a professional photographer for family portraits, here are some insights that might make you reconsider it.
Professional photographers are skilled. They are trained in fixing lights and other effects to produce a great image. They also guide their subjects in achieving the angle or a pose that highlights their best features. Furthermore, they keep in mind key things to do when shooting family portraits. In fact, you can expect them to observe the shooting guidelines detailed in the infographic below from GKS Photography.
Professional photographers are experienced. They are capable of capturing their subjects' best expressions. in a natural looking way in any setting. They allow their subjects to act naturally during the shoot as they snap photos away.
Professional photographers use appropriate backdrops and props. Backdrops and props contribute to the creation of beautiful family portraits. Experienced photographers know right away which backdrops and props to include for a family photo shoot, even if it includes numerous or themed sessions.
Professional photographers are skilled in creating flawless photos. They use state-of-the-art editing software in re-touching photos. Taking advantage of high-tech software ensures they achieve a certain effect on the photo.
It's not everyday that you're able to gather the whole family specifically for the purpose of having pictures taken. So when the opportunity arises, hiring professional photographer will make the entire process easy and enjoyable - with the best possible results. You won't have to worry about missing special moments (which always, make for the most priceless photos) when a professional photographer is around.
Most people say that the state of being happy all the time is a genetic thing. Positive psychology, on the other hand, says that people can be happy all the time by changing the way think and act everyday. While happiness can be a blessing, happiness can also be a habit that involves an inside job.
It is important for kids to enjoy and practice happiness while they're young. This can help them face the challenges in their adult years with positivity and productivity. Here are some guide questions that can help you raise happy kids. Read on.
What are you thankful for? There is a strong correlation between gratefulness and happiness. When kids realize that some kids lack most of the things they enjoy, they'll be more thankful and happy about themselves and their lives. You can ask them this question before saying grace at the dinner table.
How can you look on the bright side? Life is not all about good things. Your kids can experience things that can dampen their spirits and you can't shield them from these. Rather, you must teach your kids how to face them and look on the bright side. If they got hurt because of a certain situation, acknowledge the feeling of pain and shame they undergo. But, don't let them drown in these feelings. Guide them in looking at the positive consequences that came out from their experience.
What do you want to do on the weekend? You can rephrase this question to "What do you want to do next week? nest month? next year?. This will teach your kids the art of anticipating good things and experiences. Such anticipation will help your kids hope for good things to come their way tomorrow even though they experience bad things today. Moreover, kids can tend to have a happy and positive attitude while looking forward to positive events, experiences or goals which they've planned ahead.
Christmas makes kids restless. They're anxious about receiving the items in their wish list. Some kids throw tantrums when they receive gifts. Some kids request for money or gift checks so they can buy themselves what they want.
To some parents and adults, such behavior is understandable specifically during Christmas. To child psychologists, this can be a cause of a serious lack of contentment which children can carry onto their adult years.
Keen to make your children understand and practice contentment? Yes? Start by modeling it to them. Here are some helpful insights that can help you moving forward.
Being content is the spiritual state and not just a mental state or conditioning of the mind. Contentment makes you feel whole without needing anything or a lot of things. A person who is content is not motivated by things.
Show your kids that you're content yourself. They simply imitate what they see in you. Do you express happiness only when you're able to buy new things for yourself, for your house or for your children. They will easily pick up this behavior.
Change your point of view. Remind yourself daily that it's not all about you. Incorporate in your system the joy of giving and model it to your kids. Organize gift-giving activities and involve your kids in them. Then, you can ask them how they feel about giving. Expound more on the feeling of happiness giving creates in our hearts. Also, explain to them that giving doesn't involve material things only. It also involves generosity wit your talents, time or what have you.
This Christmas, try to think about giving your kids gifts that will last forever. If you're keen about creating memories with your kids, plan a meaningful vacation with the whole family this holiday season. Capture the special moments you're able to create in photos and have a short discussion about them with the kids when you get home.
Parenting and disciplining your step kids can never be easy. There's only a small percentage of possibility that your step kids will love you and obey you wholeheartedly. Understand that everyone’s role shifts when you begin to live with your step kids and create a step family. All your kids will find it hard to fit in once you start living together. As a parent and step parent, there are important things which you must do to keep the situation from worsening.
Build a healthy relationship with the biological parent. This is the most effective way to develop a good relationship with your step kids faster. This will take time to develop though; and you must be patient about it. Allow your stepkids to be with their biological parents but don't disappear in the scene. If they get into trouble, let your partner (their biological mother or father) to reprimand them.
Don't compete against the biological parent. Respect your step kids' connection with their biological parent. Also, respect how the latter discipline their kids. Don't fall into the temptation of trying hard to become a better parent for them. Avoid controlling your step kids or fixing their lives; rather, be present in their lives and provide the support they need.
Pay attention to the interests of your step children. What do they like? Ask questions and observe them. Find similar things that you love and do them together. This will create an impression that you're a reliable friend to them. Hence, it will be much easier for you to win their hearts and to become accepted as a parent by them.
Allow your partner and your step kids to go out together. Your step kids might feel displaced because of the new setup they're in. Let them enjoy some peace and quiet with your partner. This will help them sort things out and reestablish their relationship with each other.
Treat your step kids with care and respect. It is difficult to truly love your step children. But you don't have to show or make them feel that you hate them. Your step kids will not truly love you either. So, be composed enough to treat them with care and respect as much as you can. Love between you and them might develop over time.
Trust is one of the most difficult things to establish between parents and teenage kids. Its existence usually depends on the kind of relationship that exists between them. Trust is a two-way street. Most parents are looking for a trustworthy behavior in their kids before they could give their full trust in them.
Create open communication lines. It is never too late to ask your child open-ended questions about trust. Let them define trust and how it can be broken. Teenagers are smart. You will be surprised to hear how mature their answers could be. In the case of broken trust in the family, have an open discussion on how it can be regained and how the family can be reunited. Reiterate the fact that trust is a two-way process which requires efforts from both ends.
Explain the benefits of trust. Trust is beneficial to all members of the family. The family environment becomes peaceful when every family member is trusted by each other. No arguments will arise. Teenage kids can enjoy weekdays without curfew if their parents trust them - that they won't do anything that will ruin their lives. Parents, on the other hand, will be free of worries. They will also be able to focus on their work because they feel confident that their teenagers are safe and sound wherever they may be.
Create a road map for success. Telling teenagers to “do the right thing” will make it difficult for them to understand how you want them to act in order for them to gain your trust. Give them specific goals and NOT instructions. Instructions tend to make teenagers rebellious. Give her a list of things she needs to do in order to change bad behavior and habits. Instead of starting these items with "Do not", start them with "I will".
Be generous with positive reinforcement. Positive reinforcement can be expressed verbally. Say "Thank you!" or praise your teenager when he meets your expectations. He becomes motivated to be more trustworthy when he knows that his efforts are acknowledged and appreciated. This also sends the signal that you're an active participant of the entire 'trust' work.
Believe that you're a good parent and trust yourself. As a parent, you know what's best and right for your children. Set goals for yourself too. Make sure that these goals are targeted towards your transformation into a trustworthy parent. Make also that these goals are reasonable and achievable. Be patient and understand that trust grows slowly provided that good decisions are made.
Being a provider and a rock for our family are the toughest roles we dads do all the time. With all the responsibilities to these roles, it is impossible for us not to get stressed out at any rate. Stress can cause to be grumpy and to be ineffective heads of the family. We need to de-stress in the best ways we can in order to be available for our families now and forever.
Have a confidant. It's not healthy to keep all your thoughts about parenting to yourself. You should have someone with whom you can your laughter and pains besides your wife. A 'go-to-friend' should be someone you trust and someone whose opinion about everything matters to you. This person could be a relative, a churchmate or anyone from your neighborhood or workplace whom you respect.
Sweat it out. Sweating is an effective way to release all the toxins in your body that cause you to be stressed. You need not spend a lot on a gym membership just to workout. You can exercise at home early in the morning before you go to work. There are lots of workout videos available in YouTube. Play and follow them at your own convenient time. You can also run and play with your kids at the park or at your backyard. This will make you sweat a lot while having a great time with your children.
Laugh. Laugh and goof around with your kids. You can also watch funny videos with your wife during your free time. Laughing relaxes your facial muscles. Laughing also help you have a different perspective in life.
Find a project or hobby. This can be very challenging when you have kids to care for all the time. If it's impossible for you to have a me-time where you can execute your hobby, find things which you can do with your kids. You can engage in carpentry or pottery with your kids. Creating something will help you forget current problems and causes of stress in your life.
Hi I'm Jim, a doting dad to two amazing little people. This is my attempt to chronicle my journey as a parent. I'm not perfect and I sure can't give you the lowdown on the latest studies on child development, but I do the best I can to raise good kids.
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