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Even though siblings are born of the same parents, they will be prone to sibling conflict and rivalry. Siblings will start arguing and envying each other at an early age. This makes it hard for parents to build a foundation of friendship between siblings. Moving forward, they will struggle to cooperate, help and love each other as adults due to differences of personal opinions, personalities and values. As a parent, you will need to work out sibling conflicts as soon as possible because it can cause the entire family to fall apart. Identify the cause of the conflict - Conflict or rivalry usually springs from a insecurity felt by one of or all the siblings. Insecurities arise when your children sense favoritism in the family - mom and dad favors a brother or a sister over the rest of them. Lack of trust in siblings or in the parents also causes conflicts among children. Review the actions you and your children have made. Assess how they affect relationships within the family.
Validate their feelings - Acknowledge how the siblings feel and lead them to an open discussion. Heart issues and hurt feelings that have not been acknowledged early on can cause depression, regrets and lack of motivation in your children when they turn adults. Let them express how their anger, fear or frustration and let them know that you understand why they feel that way. However, don't forget to correct such destructive feelings. Enforce forgiveness - Stop your children from blaming and throwing verbal insults at each other. Encourage them to forgive each other and to start a new with their sibling relationship. Teach them ways on how to rebuild their trust on each other so that they can grow old together not holding grudges. |
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