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Yes. You read the title of this post right. Great parenting skills can be cultivated as long as you have the determination and the right mindset. Effective parenting springs from the recognition of love as the basis of all your actions and of your relationship with your kids. Moving forward, you must strive to put the following steps into regular practice. 1) Understand the root of your child's behavior. A child might behave in a certain way due to the following reasons: - lack of valuable experience as guide for his behavior - tendency to be naive - tendency to be rebelious - sensitivity to the people surrounding him - reflection of his closed community or home atmosphere. 2) Love your child regardless of his bad behavior. Use the "rod" to discipline to discipline him when you need to. But, do not fail to teach him a vital lesson in the process. Never apply discipline as if you are repaying a debt. After disciplining him, simply forgive him and forget all about his bad behavior. Don't keep a record of wrongs. 3) Praise your child. Praise makes him feel appreciated and loved. As you appreciate his good behaviour frequently, his behaviour in general will be more in line with what you want and expect of him. Appreciation is a powerful motivation for kids.
4) Be a role model. Your child constantly looks up to you for guidance in proper conduct and responsible behavior. Values are caught not taught. So, be mindful of what you say and how you act. 5) Expect only the best from your child.Children pick up on our beliefs about them. Never use degoratory words on your child - no matter how badly he has behaved. Rough language will crush his spirit. Oftentimes, dads don't want to be involved in parenting responsibilities. And so, they leave the entire task of rearing kids in the hands of their wives.
Are you a dad with similar disposition? Don't you think taking part in parenting kids matter? Don't you want to give co-parenting a try? If you love your kids, you should consider co-parenting by all means. Parenting skills vary much like personalities. There's nothing right or wrong when it comes to parenting. It will all depend on your family's unique situation. To help you get started, here are some co-parenting tips: Identify your personal parenting style. Clarify to yourself your personal motivations, your personal stand in rewards and punishments and your means of communication with your kids. Share your parenting style your wife. Your style may be different from your wife's style. Despite that, you must appreciate and support each other in order to achieve successful co-parenting for your kids' sake. Read parenting books and attend parenting classes. Together with your wife, take a look at good parenting books and surveys. Report back to each other and consider how your styles measure up. Take classes if you have to. Decide on a mutual parenting style. This is the ultimate in negotiation but remember that if you do not negotiate at the adult level, it leaves your child to figure it out. Once you've decided, then write down the basics and embrace your new co-parenting style. Implement your new co-parenting style and make sure that your kids know clearly what is expected from them. Discuss your co-parenting tasks with your wife weekly. The success or failure of your family rests in the hands of both parents. Thus, co-parenting meetings are a must! These meetings should include finances, home maintenance, parenting, and relationship issues. Be ready to evaluate everything. Jot down all your findings. Rearing kids is never an easy task. Kids exhibit personality traits that can be very challenging. Because of this, many parents - particularly dads - opt for the easy way out. They simply concede to what their kids want and think in order to enjoy a peaceful life at home. Needless to say, doing so will not be helpful in honing kids into disciplined, well-mannered and responsible adults. Are you at your wit's end when it comes to raising up your kids? Read the following words and parenting concept that comes along with each of them. They can open your heart and mind to a new and more effective parenting style. PLAY - Play or playing is a child's way of expression and putting himself to work. Through play he discovers and develops certain skills. If you think that play is a waste of time, please think again. Let your children play. Take the time to play with them. You can use play to enjoy yourself with your kids and to teach them important life lessons and right conduct such as respect, teamwork, taking turns, etc. TALK - Talking is different from ordering your kids around or telling them what-to-do and what-not-to-do. It involves listening and recognizing your kids' thoughts and feelings. One of the best times to talk with your kids is at the dinner table. Rephrase open-ended questions so that you can have a discussion with your kids over dinner. Don't let your kids to do all the talking. Share your thoughts and personal experiences too. EARN - Teaching kids the concept of earning something can be challenging especially when they're used to acquiring all their wants with ease. Guide them in knowing that money, privileges, items, grades, etc. are earned not owed. Children who learn this by heart get a true feeling of accomplishment when they work hard and earn something. As a parent, you will be less burdened about giving in to your kids' every request if you have successfully taught them the value of working and earning. LIFE - Kids need to experience life in order to learn how to navigate past and future difficulties. Children who are taught they can say or do anything they wish without corresponding consequences fail in life when they become adults. By teaching them to take life seriously, they will learn and grow up as adults with sense of discipline, responsibility, honor, pride, or love.
My youngest suddenly developed an interest in horseback riding. He’s been asking me to let him take riding lessons at a local riding club. While I’m aware of the wonderful benefits of this activity for kids, I’m anxious about the possible dangers that come with it. So I talked to a family member who is also an equestrian to get her insights. As expected, she encouraged me to support my son’s pursuit. She even shared with me some ideas that will facilitate my son’s first horseback riding adventures. Here are the five top tips I remember from our conversation.
1) Prioritize safety – Safety should be the first concern for beginners. In order to be safe, a rider must: a) wear the proper attire b) acquire some basic riding expertise c) learn fundamental skills for handling the horse on the ground Take the time to research the above points before taking riding lessons. There are a lot of related articles, ebooks and videos which you can find online free-of-charge. 2) Search for a good mentor – A good mentor understands the strengths, weaknesses and even fears of his students. As well as attending to your concerns and questions, he will also be able to guide you towards becoming a successful rider even in your first year. 3) Prepare your body – Horseback riding is a very physical activity. You must be able to move harmoniously with your horse without losing total control over him. Engage in exercises that strengthen your whole body and that help you achieve a sense of balance. 4) Keep practicing – Practice makes perfect. Read books and watch videos. Put your learning into practice on a regular basis. Be open to feedback from your mentor and other professional riders. 5) Listen to your horse – It is important to understand your horse’s routines, ways of communication and overall state of mind. A horse that is in good condition is always calm, responsive and able to be ridden. This can be achieved with the right care and the techniques and tools which you can learn about in any equine supplies guide for first-time horse owners. If you want a visual guide to help you choose the equine supplies you will need, check out this detailed infographic from Horseland. |
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